Yini okudingayo ukubhapathiza intombazane?

Ukubonakala kwendodakazi emndenini kuyisenzakalo esihle kubazali abasebasha, izihlobo zabo nabathandekayo. Uma i-crumb ikhule emkholweni wama-Orthodox, khona-ke kubalulekile ukubhapathiza ingane. Abazali banemibuzo eminingi. Ngakho-ke, kumelwe siqonde kusengaphambili lokho okudingekayo ukuze kubhapathizwe ingane, kulokhu, amantombazane. Kumele uqaphele ukuthi imibuzo eyinhloko yenkambiso ifana nezingane zobulili zombili, kepha ngezikhathi ezithile kuyadingeka ukuthi ubhekane nokungezwani.

Okudingayo ukubhapathiza intombazane: izinto ezingokomoya

Iphuzu elibalulekile ukukhetha kwabazali bakaNkulunkulu ngomntwana. Kumelwe kube ngabangakholwa abafanayo. Amahlumela omama nobaba kufanele athembele kubantu abakhethiwe kulo msebenzi. Kufanele kube nesibindi sokuthi bazoba yingxenye ekukhulisweni komzukulu wesifazane, kuyoba ukwesekwa kwakhe. Kukholelwa ukuthi uma kukhona okwenzeka kubazali, yizintombi zikaNkulunkulu okufanele zizinakekele ikusasa lomntwana.

Ezimweni ezikhethekile, isonto livumela ukungabikho kukaNkulunkulu wendodakazi. Indima ehola phambili idlala ngumama.

Kumele kukhunjulwe ukuthi kukhona ukulinganiselwa lapho ukhetha abanikazi bomzimba. Ngeke abe yindoda nomfazi abesilisa nabesifazane. Futhi, abazali bakhe bangempela abakwazi ukubhapathiza ingane. Noma kunjalo, ezinye izihlobo zingahle zikhethwe kulo msebenzi. Abazali bangakhetha futhi abangane babo abaseduze.

Iphuzu elibalulekile ukukhetha igama lohlelo. Uma igama abazali abanikeze umntwana alihambisani nabangcwele, khona-ke iBhapathizo eyodwa kumele ikhethe enye. Leli gama lizosetshenziswa emithandazweni. Abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi igama elinikezwe ngesikhathi sesimiso kufanele ligcinwe ngasese, ngoba kulula ukuliphazamisa. Kukholelwa ukuthi uma belimaza igama elibhalwe kwisitifiketi sokuzalwa, futhi hhayi kubhapathiziwe (kubhekwa njengengokoqobo), khona-ke ukubhujiswa ngeke kusebenze.

Yini oyidingayo ebandleni ukuze ubhapathizwe intombazane?

Kusengaphambili kudingekile ukuthi ufunde ethempelini ukuthi umkhosi uhamba kanjani nokuthi yini okudingekayo ukuwuqhuba. Phela, imithetho nemithethonqubo ingahluka. Kwamanye amasonto, kunezintengo ezisungulwe zokukhokhwa komkhosi. Kwabanye, bayakucela nje ukwenza umnikelo. Kukhona isiko ukuthi lezi zindleko zikhokhwa ngu-godfather. Ubuye athenge isiphambano somntwana. Ungase futhi uthenge uketini. Ngezinye izikhathi isiphambano siboshiwe ngebhebhoni noma ngentambo.

Unkulunkulukazi udinga ukwazi ukuthi ukubhapathizwa kwentombazane kufanele athole i-ugqumugqumu. Lena ithawula noma indwangu yendwangu, eyenzelwe ukumboza ingane ngemuva kwefonti. Emva kwesakramente, awukwazi ukusula. Abazali kufanele basebenzise lapho i-crumb igula.

Futhi unkulunkulukazi kumele aqaphele izingubo zalo mkhosi. Kumele wazi ukuthi okwakumama-ntombazane kwentombazane udinga ukuthenga okulandelayo:

• ihembe le-christening elimhlophe elimhlophe, abazali bayo bayomgcina impilo yakhe yonke;
• ibhuthoni ngamabhande noma indwangu;
• ungathenga izicathulo ezinhle, kodwa akudingekile.

Othandana nabo kufanele bafike ngezandla zabo. Owesifazane udinga ukugqoka ingubo engaphansi kwamadolo (noma agqoke). Amahlombe kufanele avalwe. Akukhuthazwa ukugqoka izicathulo ngezithende eziphakeme. Lokhu kungabangela ukuphazamiseka, ngoba umkhosi uhlala isikhathi eside futhi konke lokhu kudingekile ukugcina iziqu ezandleni zakho. Uthikazikazi wesiPhambano akakwazi ukugqoka ama-shorts kanye ne-T-shirt.

Manje indodakazi yami ingabhapathizwa hhayi ethempelini kuphela. Ngalesi sikhathi, umkhosi ungabanjwa ngisho nasekhaya. Kulokhu, igumbi linikezelwa isakramente. Ukukhetha isonto lokubhapathizwa kwengane, abazali abasha kufanele balalele imizwa yabo. Ngompristi udinga ukuvumelanisa kusengaphambili, njengoba kuzodingeka ukhethe usuku nesikhathi somkhuba. Ngokuvamile, isakramente singabanjwa ngamasonto kanye nangezimpelasonto. Kubalulekile ukukhetha usuku ukuze lingalingani nesikhathi sokuya esikhathini sikaNkulunkulu. Phela, ngalesi sikhathi owesifazane akakwazi ukuya esontweni.