Abantu abaningi kakhulu bajwayele ukwesaba okukhulu, iningi lawo elingenangqondo. Ukusho kahle ukuthi yiziphi amaphesenti abantu abadala abesaba amaphele noma ukuphakama akunakwenzeka, ngoba abaningi bayakufihla. Kodwa uma lokhu kuqala ukuphazamisa impilo evamile, umuntu ngokuzibandakanya kufanele anqume ukuthi kufanele asuse kanjani ukwesaba okukhulu.
Ngaphandle kokuba sikhulume iqiniso lokuthi isimo sezinzwa sesivele sibe yi-neurosis, umuntu angasusa ukwesaba okukhulu. Izazi ze-Psychologists zeluleka izivivinyo ezikuvumela ukuba uqonde ukuthi ungasusa kanjani imicabango evelele kanye nokwesaba.
Udinga ukwamukela ukwesaba kwakho. Wonke umuntu unelungelo lokwesaba okuthile, akekho ohlukile. Abantu abaningi babesaba okuthile, kukhona okuyisiwula. Ngokwesibonelo, uNapoleon wayesaba amahhashi. Ngakho-ke, ukwesaba abantu ngezinselele akuyona into embi nakakhulu.
Inkinga ayesabi ngokwesaba, kodwa ngokubaluleka kwayo. Uma umuntu ekhala, lapho i-wolfhound imfihla ngokuzumayo kuye nge-snarl, akulutho. Kulungile uma esaba njalo ukuhlasela iPekingese yokucabanga. Kuyingozi kakhulu, uma besuka ekwesabeni abantu bawela emgodini futhi lokhu ngezinye izikhathi kwenzeka, isibonelo, emgwaqweni omatasa. Khona-ke umbuzo wokuthi kufanele ususe kanjani imicabango nokusho okucashile kubalulekile.
Udinga ukuthatha ucezu lwephepha bese ubhala ukwesaba kwakho (isibonelo, ukwesaba izinja noma ukukhuluma emhlanganweni). Bese uphendula ngokubhala imibuzo efanayo: Kwenzekani uma kwenzeka okuthile engikwesabayo? Kunalokho kungisongela? Yini okufanele ngiyenze ngaleso sikhathi? Khona-ke ungabona ukuthi konke akukwesabeki kakhulu.
Asikho isidingo sokuthemba ukuthi ungakwazi ukuqeda ukwesaba. Lokhu akunakwenzeka, futhi akudingekile. Kudingeka nje ukunciphisa ukwesaba futhi uyithathe ngaphansi kokulawula.
Thola indlela yokukhipha imicabango eyiphutha ekhanda lakho - ukuphazamiseka. Cabanga ngezandla zakho, izicathulo, amaqabunga emithi, amafu esibhakabhakeni. Gxila kokuthile okudingekayo noma okubaluleke kakhulu.
Kwenzeka ukuthi imicabango iphikelela ngokuphindaphindiwe. Into yokuzikhukhumeza ingabi nje ukwesaba kuphela, kodwa futhi nesifiso. Ubuhlobo obusindayo, obungenakubalekela nganoma iyiphi indlela, okuyisibonelo senkinga enjalo uma ungazi ukuthi ungasusa kanjani ukuhlukunyezwa okungalungile mayelana nokuhluleka kokuphila, okugcwele usizi nesizungu esingaphambili, njalonjalo.
Indlela yokukhipha imicabango engathandeki mayelana nendoda?
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Indlela yokukhipha imicabango engacabangi ngokufa?
I-Thanatophobia iyinkathazo enkulu, kodwa ingathathwa ngaphansi kokulawula uma ungayinikezi intando phezu kwakho. Kubalulekile ukucabanga ngalokho okubalulekile okwamanje. Zama ukubuyela ekuhlangenwe nakho kwezinkolo ezahlukene. Ukuze uhlanganyele ekusizeni.
Kukhona enye indlela, efanelekile kuleli cala. Ngolunye usuku, ngihlezi ekhaya, zama konke okusemandleni ami ukwesaba. Ngisho nokukhala. Chaza ngokuningiliziwe konke okwesabekayo okumelwe ukwenze. Ukuqina kokwesaba emva kwalokhu kuzoya ekulahlekelweni: umuntu njengokuthi "uyasusa" eningi.
Uma ukwesaba nokwehluleka kungadluli, imbangela yabo ingase icindezeleke. Uma isimo esinjalo siqala, kungcono ukubonana nodokotela futhi sithole ukwelashwa kokucindezeleka. Omunye kumele akhumbule: ukwesaba kubhubhisa impilo.