Kuvela ukuthi akunakwenzeka ukuba umuntu onomusa, udinga nje ukuzalwa. Kodwa ukuze ube mnandi, ulalelisise, uzwele ngokwengeziwe, lezi zimfanelo zingathuthukiswa ngokwakho, futhi ngenxa yalokhu kwengqondo, kukhona ukuqeqeshwa okukhethekile nokuzivocavoca. Ngaphambi kokuqala ukuthuthukiswa komzwelo ekusebenzeni, kudingeka ukwazi lokhu okulandelayo:
- Ukuphendula kwangempela ngokomzwelo kufanele kufinyelele kuwo wonke umuntu, hhayi kuphela othandekayo enhliziyweni nabathandekayo. Umuntu onomusa uthatha ingxenye kubo bonke abadinga ngempela.
- Konke kuhle ukulinganisela, nokuphendula. Inkinga yokuphendula ukuthi ukuphendula ngokweqile kungabangela ukucindezeleka okuqhubekayo, ukukhathala ngisho ne-neuroses. Siphila ezweni elingaphelele, futhi akunakwenzeka ukusiza wonke umuntu. Yingakho udinga ukufunda ukubonisa umusa, ukubamba iqhaza nokuphendula ngokusemandleni akho, kepha hhayi ekulimazeni isistimu yakho yezempilo kanye nempilo. Ngezinye izikhathi udinga nje u- egoism ophilile, okungukuthi, umusa nokuphendula kulabo othandekayo, izifiso zakho nezidingo zakho.
- Khetha, bonisa ukuzwelana, uzwela nokuhlanganyela kuphela kulabo abafanelwe. Sonke siyazi ukuthi sizungezwe abantu abaningi - abaphathi abanamakhono. Ngakho-ke akukho lutho olufanele ukuphonsa umsebenzi wakho kumuntu osebenza naye onokwethenjelwa, uvumele izinga eliphansi lokugcoba umzimba, izinwele zokugqoka noma izigqoko zokugqoka ezigcotshiwe njalonjalo. Yiba ohlakaniphile, funda ukuphika ama-manipulators amabi.
- Funda ukukhombisa ukuhlanganyela nokuphendula "kusuka enhliziyweni", hhayi njalo. Phela, kwenzeka futhi ukuthi lezi zimfanelo empeleni zivele zibe "umusa ongazi lutho," izizathu ezithinta isifiso sokwaziwa njengezinto ezibucayi, okubonakala kube nobuzwe nobugovu obukhukhumezekile ngisho nokuyize.
Ukuphendula, isimo sengqondo esiqotho kubantu - izimfanelo eziwusizo hhayi kuphela kubangane, kodwa nakuwe. Kuyaziwa ukuthi abantu ababi, abanomona futhi abanomzwelo ngokuvamile bahlushwa yi-migraines, zonke izinhlobo zemithi, izifo zenhliziyo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, abantu abonisa ukuzwela okulungile, umusa nokuphendula (ngendlela enhle) ezihlotsheni zabo, izihlobo nalabo abadinga ngempela, bahlangabezana nemizwelo emihle , ukuvuselela ngokomoya kanye nenjabulo yangempela kulokhu. Ngisho nososayensi baphetha ngokuthi abantu ababhekene nokuziphendulela, ukwethembeka, abagula kancane, ngokuvamile babonakala bancane kakhulu kunabangane babo ababi nabangenandaba, isilinganiso sokuphila kwabantu abanjalo siphakeme.
Imfundo yokuphendula ngokomzwelo
Namuhla, abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi konke okwenzayo, kubuya kuwe, ngesimo esisodwa noma kwenye. Izinkolelo ziyizinto ezibonakalayo, futhi lokhu kuyiqiniso, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuzwakala kanjani. Umuntu onomusa futhi onomusa ubona abantu abaningi abakuzungezile, futhi endleleni enza ngayo azungeze inkampani efanayo.
Inkinga yokuphendula komuntu kanye nokusizana komuntu manje sekuphuthumayo kunanini ngaphambili, kodwa ukuba umuntu omuhle akulula, kuwumsebenzi onzima, umsebenzi oqhubekayo kuwe, ukukhuthazela, ukwethembeka, ukuzwela. Ungafuni ukushintsha ngokushesha, usuku olulodwa, ungazami ukusiza wonke umuntu ozungezile - qala kancane. Ungakwazi ukuxolisa ngokuzithoba lapho uphendula impendulo ebukhali, ukondla umuthi olambile ongenamakhaya, ukhiphe indawo eya kumuntu osekhulile ku-tram, kubiza futhi abazali bakho noma ugogo. Ngokushesha uzomangala ukuthola ukuthi uqale uzizwa ngendlela ehlukile, ukuphila kuye kwaba nencazelo entsha, futhi isimo sengqondo asikushiyi!