Okokuqala, owesifazane wesaba lokho angazi. Ngakho-ke, uma ukuzalwa kokuqala kwenzeka ngaphandle kwezinkinga ezikhethekile, ukwesaba ukuzalwa kwesibili akusekho okuqinile noma kungekho: owesifazane okhulelwe uyazi ukuthi yini okufanele alindele futhi uyilungiselela. Kodwa uma ekuzalweni kokuqala kwakunezinkinga ezinkulu kumama noma kwengane, ukwesaba ukuzalwa kwesibili kunesisekelo sangempela futhi ungayilahla kuphela uma ususa izimbangela ezibangele izinkinga.
Kodwa, ngokuphindaphindiwe kunalokho, owesifazane akazi okuningi mayelana nokubeletha nokuthi kufanele kwenziwe kanjani phakathi kwabo, kodwa uzwe izindaba eziningi ezimbi ezivela kubangane, abonwa amafilimu anele noma amaforamu e-Internet. Futhi kubesifazane abasolisayo izindaba ezinjalo zingabangela ukwesaba okwesaba, okukuvimbela ukuba ulalele izincomo zangempela futhi empeleni kungabangela izinkinga ngesikhathi sokubeletha.
Indlela yokunqoba ukwesaba ukubeletha?
Ukuze uqonde ukuthi owesifazane ubhekana kanjani, uma besaba ukubeletha, udinga ukubuza ukuthi kubangelwa yini. Uma lokhu kungamanga kuphela nokuhleba okwesabisa owesifazane we-nerazhavshuyu, angayeluleka okuningi ukuxhumana nalabo abaye bazalwa kalula futhi ngaphandle kokucindezeleka noma kumama omkhulu.
Kodwa ezinye izinkulumo ngeke zinikeze okuningi, uma owesifazane engakakulungeli lokho okulindele ngesikhathi sokubeletha, akazi ukuthi ukukhulelwa kwakhe kuhamba kanjani nokuthi yiziphi izinkinga ezingabangela, ayiqondi indlela yokuzalwa futhi engakulungeli ukuthi angasiza kanjani inqubo evamile yokukhiqiza . Angelulekwa ukuba abe khona izifundo zokuqeqesha omama abalindelekile, lapho owesifazane okhulelwe angafunda khona indlela yokuphumula, ukuphefumula okufanele ngesikhathi sokubeletha , angenza isenzo somzimba ozoqinisa umzimba futhi asize ekubelethweni. Futhi ngesikhathi sokuzalwa ngokwayo, ukuze ugweme noma yikuphi ukucindezeleka, owesifazane kufanele ngokucacile futhi ngokungazelelwe alandele yonke imiyalelo kadokotela nombelethisi.