Inkinga yefulethini, ngokuphambene nesitatimende se-classical, ayikhohlisi amaMuscovites kuphela. Imindeni eminingi encane iphoqeleka ukuba igqekeze ekamelweni elilodwa, noma emakamelweni, eduze komzali kanye nezinye izihlobo. Lapho nonke ningayi ndawo, ngoba ukuze nifake umnyango ovaliwe. Kodwa uma ingane izalwa emndenini, kuba nzima nakakhulu.
Ngokungangabazeki, ucansi lithatha impilo yomndeni akuyona indawo yokugcina. Yebo kukhona isono sokufihlekisa - kudingekile ukuthi kube nokuphila komndeni ophelele, ubudlelwane obuvamile phakathi komyeni nomfazi kanye nokuqala kwezempilo ngokomzimba. Kodwa ngokuvamile abazali abasha bazithola besesimweni sokuthi kukhona isifiso, futhi akukho ithuba lokuqaphela, njengalokhu kuhlaya kwezinwele. Ngakho-ke, kufanele sihambe ezindleleni ezihlukahlukene, sinciphise impilo esondelene nemisebenzi esheshayo, sifihle endlini yokugezela nasekhishini, silinde kuze ingane ilele.
Kunzima kakhulu kulabo abazolala nomntwana ekamelweni elilodwa, ngoba ingane ekhulile ilele kakhulu kunomntwana kanye nezingozi zokuvuka, ukuthola abazali "ngalokhu." Labo abanekamelo labo balula kakhulu, kodwa kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuvala umnyango wenqaba, ngoba ingane ingafika kubazali phakathi kobusuku ngoba ibona iphupho elimbi, liyesaba noma lizwa imisindo engavamile.
Yiqiniso, izimo ezinjalo zibuhlungu ngokwabo, ngakho-ke uma kungenzeka, kufanele zigweme. Kodwa uma lokhu kwenzekile, kubalulekile ukusabela kahle, ngoba lokhu kungathinta kakhulu isimo sengqondo somntwana wakho ohlangothini lobucansi bokuphila. Kusukela ekuphenduleni kwabazali kuncike ukuthi lokhu kuzoba ngukuhlukunyezwa kwengane noma maduzane ukhohliwe, njengesimo esivamile ngokuphelele.
Ngakho, ingane ikutholile ngemuva kwalokhu, "yini okufanele uyenze?
- hlola ukusabela kwengane - kuye ngokuthi uneminyaka engakanani, angase abe nesaba futhi akhale, abe nesithakazelo futhi aqale ukubuza imibuzo noma ukubuyela emuva ukulala;
- ungamemeza noma umangaze ingane. Yiba nokuthula futhi ungabonisi ingqondo ukuthi kwenzeka into engavamile;
- Gqoka uphinde uye emntwaneni, thola kuye isizathu sokuvuswa;
- Ngokuvamile kusukela ohlangothini lwezocansi zengane kubheka njengesenzo sobudlova, ukuhlukumeza kukababa kumama, ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukukhombisa ngendlela yakho ezolile, ngomusa ukuthi akukho okwesabekayo okwenzekile. Uma abazali benamahloni, besaba futhi besaba, ingane ingabona kulokhu isiqinisekiso sokwesaba kwabo, okungahle kuthinte kamuva impilo yakhe ebuseduze;
- uma ingane iqala ukubuza imibuzo, kungcono ukushiya kuze kube sekuseni. Izincazelo zixhomeke ngokuphelele ekucabangeni kwakho. Uma ungakakulungeli ukuqhuba uhlelo lwezemfundo ekuzalweni kanye nasendlini yezocansi , ungacabanga ngento ethile, isibonelo, ukuthi ubaba wenza massage kumama wakhe, ngakho-ke imisindo nokukhala. Kungabuye kuthiwa ngale ndlela, abantu abadala abashadile nabathandanayo babonisa imizwa yabo komunye nomunye ngaphandle kokungena emininingwaneni yemvelo yenqubo;
- akudingekile ukucindezela futhi ukungazinaki imibuzo esemthethweni ephakama ngokuqondene nalokho okubonwayo. Vumela ingane ithole izimpendulo ezingcono ezivela kuwe kunabangani abaseduze egcekeni noma engadini;
- ungatshele ingane ukuthi "udlale" nje, ngoba ekuqondeni kwakhe umdlalo uhloswe ikakhulukazi ezinganeni, ngakho-ke i-kid iyakucasula ngawe ngokungahambeli ukuthi adlale nawe.
Lesi simo singabangela ukucindezeleka hhayi kuphela iziqu, kodwa kubazali. Kodwa isifiso sokugwema lokho akusizathu sokuyeka ukulala ngokobulili ngokuphelele. Hlalani niphapheme, hamba lezi zizathu ekhishini noma endlini yokugezela, shintsha isikhathi sokududuza, isibonelo, emva kokuya ocansini ekuseni , lapho ubuthongo bezinyane eliqinile kakhulu, ukumfundisa ukuthi angqongqoze emnyango wekamelo lokulala lomzali wakhe, akwenze lapho esensimini noma ehamba naye ugogo.