Ngithandana nobaba kayise - yini engingayenza?

Isithandwa esidumile sithi: "Uthando lwazo zonke ubudala luyazithoba," kodwa ingabe kunjalo ngempela, futhi ikhona yini ikusasa ekuhlotsheni okunjalo okungenalutho? Namuhla, awubonanga isithombe isikhathi eside - intombazane encane, oneminyaka engu-20-25 ubudala, ihamba nomuntu oneminyaka engama-40-50. Kubantu abaningi, ikakhulukazi ukuqina kukaSoviet, lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi ukuhlanekezela futhi akuhlangene nobudlelwane obukhulu futhi ikakhulukazi awunalo uthando.

Izizathu zalokhu kukhetha

Kungani amantombazane enaka amadoda asebekhulile nokuthi yikuphi okubakhangayo:

1. Wonke umuntu omdala unolwazi lokuphila . Usuvele wafaka izimpungushe zakhe futhi angasho ukuthi yini okulungile nokuthi yini engekho. Amantombazane amaningi awaqhathanisa ne-odnodokami yawo, eqinisweni ayinandaba nomhlaba wonke. Amadoda amadala anesibindi, aziqinisekisile, eduze kwabo, njengemuva kwodonga lwamatshe, nokuthi labancane abathintekayo kuphela ngocansi kanye nesikhathi esimnandi sokuhambisa.
2. Indoda endala, njengenjwayelo, inikezwe futhi intombazane ayidingi ukucabanga ukuthi ungayitholaphi ingubo entsha noma iya endaweni yokudlela. Othandekayo uzokubuza izipho, noma aze athenge indawo yokuhlala kanye nemoto, konke kuxhomeke esimweni sakhe somphakathi. Uma ukhetha oontanga, onjengawo ongenakho lutho, kuyodingeka uhole kukho konke ndawonye futhi kusukela ekuqaleni.
3. Amadoda anjalo akwazi ukukhuluma ama-compliments amahle, ahlakaniphile kakhulu futhi ahloniphekile. Bayazi ukuthi kanjani nokuthi kanjani, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi bangasho kuphi, lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho akuvamile kubantu abasha.
4. Amantombazane anakekele amadoda anjalo, ngokuvamile avunyelwe ukunakwa kukayise esemncane. Basuka kumadoda amadala bathola lokho uyise abazange abanikeze: ukunakekela, ukugcinwa, uthando, ukwethembeka, njll.
5. Indoda endala iyakwazi ukwenza izinto, isikhathi lapho ekhulunywe kahle kakhulu esikhathini esidlule. Umuntu onjalo uyakushada uma efuna ukuchitha konke ukuphila kwakhe nawe, futhi akaceli ukuba alinde iminyaka embalwa ukuze acabange futhi anqume ngesinyathelo esibi.
6. Abantu abanjalo uma benothando, besaba kakhulu ukukulahlekelwa futhi bazobe balungele noma yini yokubeka umhlaba wonke ezinyaweni zenu, kodwa lokhu kungalindelwa kumfana osemusha ongenakukwazi ukunquma ekuphileni. Ukunciphisa umhawu , okuzohambisana nobuhlobo bakho obudala, kodwa kungenzeka yini ngomfana osemusha?
7. Ngomuntu omdala okhethiwe, ngeke nje ube yinto ephathelene nezocansi, uyakwazisa umphefumulo wakho, umlingiswa kanye nezinye izimfanelo ezingabalulekile kumfana osemusha.
8. Umuntu omdala uyisekelo elihle kakhulu empilweni, angasiza ngezinkinga ezingase zenzeke empilweni yakho hhayi kuphela ngezeluleko, kodwa ngezenzo.

Yini engenzeka?

Kunezibonelo eziningi zezimbhangqwana ezindala ezingenalutho ezijabula kakhulu. Zonke zihle futhi azikaze zisole ngokuthi zithathe isinyathelo esinjalo. Kodwa zikhona izibonelo kanye nezinyunyana ezinganelisekile, ezishaye phansi. Ngokuvamile abalingani abanjalo banalo imibono ehlukene empilweni futhi okokuqala yilokho okukhanga, kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi lokhu kungabangela inani elikhulu lokuxabana futhi ngisho nokuhlukanisa. Uzokwazi ukuzwa ngokuqondisa kwakho amazwi ahlasele esimweni esinjalo: "Yini owaziyo eminyakeni yakho, usumncane kakhulu." Kukhona ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi emva kwesikhathi uzomkhathaza, futhi uzothola umngane omusha noma omncane wokuphila. Amadoda amadala afuna kakhulu abesifazane abakhethiweyo, ngakho-ke uzodinga ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zakhe.

Isiphetho

Kuthiwani uma uthandana nomuntu omdala - lalela inhliziyo yakho. Ubudala bungadlala kahle ebuhlotsheni bakho, futhi mhlawumbe ngokuphambene nalokho. Ngakho-ke, engozini noma, noma kunjalo, ukuyeka ukubuka omunye omncane, lokhu kuyisinqumo sakho kuphela.