Ukunganaki - isici, ekuboneni kokuqala, akusizi ngalutho futhi akubi. Kodwa ikwazi ukuletha kumnikazi wayo izinkinga eziningi kanye namathuba angabanjwanga ukuhlela impilo yakhe. Abantu abahlukumezekile baba lapho belahlekelwa ikhono labo elingaphakathi lokuthola indlela yabo yokuphila futhi baqhubeke behamba ngale ndlela eya emgomweni. Abalahlekelwa ukuxhumana nezifiso zabo zangaphakathi nezifiso zabo futhi abakwazi ukuzidela ekufezeni umsebenzi othile. Abantu abanjalo bancike emibonweni nasezifisweni zabanye abantu. Babuthakathaka futhi abakwazi ukubeka imigomo yokuzikhandla, njengoba behlelwe ngamabomu ukuze bahluleke.
Izimbangela zokungalungi
Ukuze uqonde indlela yokunqoba ukungalungi, kubalulekile ukuthola izimbangela zayo. Ngokuvamile, imbangela yalesi sici ukudumala. Amaphutha adlule kanye nokungalingani kahle kwenza umuntu abe nobungozi. Ukulandelana kokuhluleka kubulala ukuzethemba, okuphakamisa ukuthi ulahlekile futhi akudingeki ukuba avivinye isiphetho sakhe futhi, umane nje kudingeka ahlale engenzi lutho.
Ngezinye izikhathi, ukungacabangi kuvela ebuntwaneni. Uma umuntu akhulela emndenini lapho wonke umuntu enqume konke, elawulwa yizo zonke izenzo futhi wayeka noma yikuphi ukubonakaliswa kwesinyathelo - angase abe umuntu obuthakathaka, ongenamqondo.
Ungasusa kanjani ukunganaki?
- Uma enkulumweni yakho kaningi imishwana "kungenzeka", "ukungabaza", "akuqiniseki" nokunye okufana nalokhu - yisikhathi sokubonisa. Yiqiniso, lezi zinkulumo zivame kakhulu, kodwa zibala izikhathi ezingaki ngosuku ozibiza ngazo. Uma kaningi kakhulu - ususe ngokushesha. Khuluma ngokuqinile, ngokuzethemba, ugweme ukuchitha izinqumo, uphakamisa ukuthi awuzethembi futhi unganqikazi.
- Nciphisa isikhathi sokwenza izinqumo. Uma kuphakama isimo esidinga isinqumo sakho, ungalibali isikhathi eside, zama ukuhlaziya ngokushesha lokho okwenzekile bese ucacisa uhlelo lokuphuma kule nkinga. Ukuzindla okude akuqinisekisi umphumela ongcono. Ngokuvamile, ngokuphambene nalokho, isixazululo sokuqala sibonisa ukuthi sinembile kakhulu, ngoba samukelwa ngezinga elibucayi.
- Uma ubhekene nokukhetha okubalulekile: yikuphi umkhwenyana okumele akhethe, avumelane nesimo esisha noma cha, bhala phansi ephepheni zonke izimayini noma izinzuzo zalokhu noma leso sinqumo. Qhathanisa izimpikiswano ezihlukahlukene bese ubhekisela emqondweni. Ngokuqinisekile, ngemva kokulinganisa zonke izinzuzo nezingozi, ungenza isinqumo esifanele.
- Yenza isibindi. Kuyinkuthalo okubangela ukuvela kokuzethemba nokuzimisela. Isibonelo, uma wesaba ukukhuluma ngomphakathi - isinyathelo ngokweqile ukwesaba kwakho, khuluma kuqala ngaphandle kwababukeli, khona-ke ngaphambi kwezihlobo zakho, bese ucela abangani bakho ukuba balalele inkulumo yakho khona-ke kuyoba lula kuwe ukukhuluma nezilaleli eziningi. Mane ungaletheli iphuzu lokungacabangi -
ukugxuma ophahleni lwendlu ngeke kunqobe ukwesaba izindawo eziphakeme.
Uma amathiphu angenhla angakusizi - mhlawumbe imbangela yokuzikhethela kwakho ijulile engqondweni futhi ingasuswa kuphela ngososayensi. Ukuphendukela kunokwazi kwengqondo onolwazi, uzofunda ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nokungacabangi kwakho futhi ube umuntu ozikhukhumeza futhi onenjongo. Futhi khumbula ukuthi amaphutha nokuhluleka kutholakala endleleni yabantu bonke. Bonke abantu abakhulu nabadumile bahamba kuwo, kodwa abazange bayeke, kodwa baqina kuphela. Futhi uma ukuhlukunyezwa komlingisi kuphinda kuzama ukumelana nentuthuko yakho, yixoshe. Sebenzisa wonke amathuba anikezwe yikusasa futhi uqiniseke ukuthi uzophumelela!