Ingabe i-polyamory isimilo esisha sobuhlobo noma isono?

I-Polyamory (i-polyamory) yisikhathi esisha abantu abanganelisekile ngezinyunyana zendabuko zesakhiwo "somuntu wesifazane" ezichaza ubuhlobo babo. Ngokusho abalandeli abaningi be-polyamory, ubudlelwane obuvulekile obunjalo bufaka isandla ekwenzeni ukwaneliseka kwempilo, okwenza kube okuhlukile nakakhulu.

Polyamory - kuyini?

Ngokusho kukaBrandon Wade, umdali wendawo ethi "ukucabanga ngokusobala", i-polyamory yindlela "yokungathembeki kokuziphatha" kubantu abangacabangi ukuthi umshado uyingqayizivele yobuhlobo. Izimo eziyinhloko ze-polyamory ziyiqiniso, ukuqwashisa nokuvuleka. Umlingani akufanele ahlupheke ngenxa yabanye abathintekayo ebuhlotsheni bombhangqwana, abantu. Ububanzi bobudlelwane be-polyamorous bukhulu kakhulu, futhi kuphela inani labahlanganyeli abahilelekile, izinhlobo zobudlelwane babo, indlela yokuphila incike kubathintekayo.

I-polyamory kufanele ihlukaniswe nemibono enjengokungabonisi, ukukhwabanisa. Ngokuphinga komunye wabalingani, okwesibili kuhlupheka, okungahambisani nomthetho oyinhloko we-polyamory. Isikhathi esiseduze isithembu, okusho uhlobo oluthile lomshado lapho umlingani wakho angaba nomlingani ongaphezu koyedwa wobulili obuhlukile (isithembu kanye ne-polyandry). I-Polyamory ayikutheli lokhu - eqenjini labantu abathintekayo, kungenzeka kube nobuhlobo bobulili obufanayo nobungqingili.

I-Poly-union - iyini?

I-Union polyamori (ehilelekile) ingaba iqembu noma ikhululekile, evulekile noma evalwe, ixutshwe.

1. Ukubambisana kwamaqembu kuwumndeni wemindeni enomndeni lapho, ngokuthandana ngokobulili, ubuhlobo bomuntu wonke buyenzeka. Imindeni enjalo yama-poly-familial ngezinye izikhathi ibizwa ngokuthi "isiSwidi".
2. Inhlangano yamahhala iyinhlangano yamapolyamori amaningana angahlobene nomunye nomunye.
3. Labo abathintekayo emnyangweni ovulekile wepolyamory bangakwazi ukukhokhela noma yiliphi inombolo yokuxhumana, isikhathi eside noma isikhathi esifushane.
4. Emphakathini we-polyamore ovaliwe, balondoloza ubuhlobo neqembu elihlala njalo labantu abahilelekile, ngaphandle kokuphazanyiswa ukuxhumeka okungaphandle.
5. Enyunyeni elixubekile, enye yamakhompiyutha ingavulelwa ukuxhumana okusheshayo, futhi enye - ukunamathela kubalingani abavamile.

I-Polyamory - i-psychology

Kusukela ekubukeni kwengqondo, ubudlelwane be-polyamorous buqotho kunokwesithembu noma ukusebenzisana lapho omunye wabalingani eshintsha khona oshade naye. Yiqiniso, lokhu ukwethembeka kungabangela ukuphazamiseka kokukhathazeka uma omunye walabo abathintekayo evumelana nombuthano wobulili wamahhala ukuze agcine ubuhlobo nalowo ayethandayo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, i-polyamory ifanele kuphela kubantu abangenalo umbono womphakathi, tk. abantu abaningi abawamukeli.

Kwezinye izimo, i-polyamory ingaba insindiso yomuntu. Isibonelo, uma umuntu engakwazi ukugodla umfazi futhi uma kungekho mvume, indoda izoshintsha njalo. I-Sami polyamory ivame ukuchaza isifiso sabo sokuhlukahluka kulowo ongeke afune kumlingani oyedwa konke ukuhlukahluka kobuhlobo nobulili.

Ngingayishiya i-polyamory?

Umuntu ongafani nopolyamory ebuhlotsheni, hhayi nje kuphela ongayenqaba, kodwa futhi kufanele asho lokhu ngqo kumlingani wakhe. I-Polyamory ayamukeli amanga nokufihleka kweqiniso, wonke umuntu onobudlelwane obumelwe kumele azi futhi avumelane. Umuntu ovame ukukhululeka ngokocansi kufanele athole izihlobo ekubukeni komhlaba , noma alahle ipolory ngenxa yothandekayo.

I-polyamory - izincwadi

Abantu be-polyamorous baqhubeka beba ngamaqhawe ezincwadi, beqala "abaphuphi" beBertolucci.

1. K.A. Uhlu, D. Easton "I-Ethics of Burning . " Le ncwadi ikhuluma ngomzimba womzimba wothando. Umgomo oyinhloko wabalobi bomsebenzi ukufakazela ukuthi ubudlelwano obukhululekile abuhambanga ngaphezu kokuziphatha komphakathi.
2. D. Ebershof "umfazi we-19" . Le ncwadi, ebhaliwe enhlobonhlobo yombheki, ichaza ngobuhlobo obungathintekiyo phakathi kobudlelwane bomndeni womndeni omkhulu wamaMormon.
3. R. Merle "Malvil" . Uthando lwamahhala ubudlelwane kulo msebenzi ovulekele ngemuva kwe-post-apocalypse.
4. UMnu Kundera "Ukukhanya Okungapheli Kokuba" . Lo msebenzi wesitayela nefilosofi uyomthakazelisa umfundi ngokushisa okukhulu kanye nesakhiwo esontekile. Amaqhawe encwadi aphila ngokuphila kwawo, ehamba ngendlela yokubuka imibono kanye nokufunda ubuningi bomzimba wabo nemiphefumulo yabo.