Abantu abaningi kakhulu, besebenzisa iziqinisekiso zokuzethemba, bafeze imiphumela efunayo. Kuvela ukuthi lokhu kusebenza ngempela! Yiziphi iziqinisekiso? Lezi yizitshalo, ngenxa yokuthi wonke umuntu uyakwazi ukushintsha indlela yokucabanga, ukwakha ikusasa elijabulisayo, lapho wonke umuntu ezama khona. Lezi zitatimende zikusekela usuku lonke, zizethemba wena namandla akho.
Ngaphandle kokuqaphela ngisho, sivame ukubiza ukuqinisekiswa okubi, ukusho ezinye izinkulumo zokuqukethwe okungalungile nsuku zonke. Isibonelo, abaningi banamazwi "ama-parasites" - ama-horror noma ubusuku nabanye. Ngakho-ke, ukuze ushintshe okuthile empilweni yakho, ukuzethemba, udinga ukufunda ukulawula amagama nemicabango. Shintsha zonke iziqinisekiso ezimbi eziqinisekisweni ezinhle, nakuba kunzima ukukwenza. Njalo ekuseni kufanele uqale ngokumomotheka nokubonga ngakho konke okukuzungezile.
Kuvela ukuthi ukuqinisekiswa akuyona into kodwa imicabango yethu. Kule ndlela elula futhi enamandla kakhulu, singathonya ingqondo engaqondakali. Khetha ukuqinisekiswa okuzoveza izifiso zakho, bese uphinda izikhathi eziningana. Kubalulekile ukwenza imisho enjalo ngendlela efanele.
Imithetho yokudala ukuqinisekiswa
- Uma ufuna ukushintsha impilo yakho ibe ngcono, khona-ke udinga ukwakha imicabango yakho ngendlela enhle, ngaphandle kokusebenzisa uhlamvu "hhayi."
- Kumele wakhe ukwakheka okwamanje, isibonelo ngithanda mina.
- Ukwakhiwa okuqondile kwezifiso zakho kubalulekile - yilokho okuqinisekisayo okungabangela imizwelo eqinile.
- Ukuqinisekiswa ngalunye kufanele kukukhathalele kuphela, kanye nesimo sezindaba zakho. Uma kuhloswe ekuthuthukiseni izindaba zomunye umuntu, ukuqinisekiswa okunjalo ngeke kusebenze.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuphindaphinda imishwana mayelana nokuzithanda. Isibonelo, kuyasiza ukuphinda ukuqinisekiswa okulandelayo izikhathi eziningana:
- Ngiyakuthanda mina;
- Ngithanda umzimba wami;
- umzimba wami uthanda ukuba uphilile;
- Uthando lubekwe enhliziyweni yami;
- zonke izitho zomzimba wami ziyathandwa;
- Ngiyakuthanda ukuthi ngingubani;
- Ngingaba yilokho engikufunayo.
Ukusho ukuqinisekiswa nsuku zonke kuwe noma ngokuzwakalayo izikhathi eziningana kuyindlela ephumelelayo yokufeza imigomo, injabulo nothando. Ngenxa yalokho, empilweni yakho kuyoba nemizwelo emihle kanye nemizwa, futhi kanye nabo uthando kanye nokuqonda, ukuzethemba kuzokuza kuwe.
Ukuqinisekiswa okuwusizo kakhulu ngokuzithemba ngokwengeziwe. Ukuzihlonipha okuphezulu kuyisisekelo sezinguquko ezinhle. Uma umuntu engakholelwa kuye, akazithandi yena, futhi engazi ukuthi ufanelwe kangcono empilweni, ngeke athole lutho. Yonke imicabango yethu ingagcwaliseka. Ngakho-ke, akukho cala ongagxila kulokho okubi noma ungalindeli lutho oluhle empilweni.
Vumela uzibe ngokwakho, bese uzokuzithanda ngokwakho. Kufanele wazi ukuthi ungumuntu oyingqayizivele. Ngakho esikhundleni sokuhlakulela ukwehluleka kwakho, gcizelela isithunzi sakho, ukwandise ukuzethemba kwakho ngokuqinisekiswa, uphinde: Ngimnandi. Futhi ngempela uzobheka ngokushesha ukubukeka kwakho kusuka kolunye uhlangothi.
Kungani ukuqinisekiswa kungakwazi ukusebenza?
- Okokuqala, kungenzeka ngoba ungasebenzisa igama elithi "can" emgqeni owakhiwe. Ngempela, ingqondo yakho engazi lutho iyazi ukuthi ungakwazi, ngakho-ke leli gama akudingeki lifakwe ekuqinisekiseni.
- Okwesibili, uma ungaphindaphindi ukufakazela, bazoyeka ukusebenzela wena.
- Ungakhohlwa ukuthi imishwana kufanele ibe sesikhathini samanje, hhayi esikhathini esizayo.
- Uma ungakholelwa lokho okushoyo, ukuqinisekiswa kubangela ukumelana, cishe cishe ngeke basebenze.