Ubuhlobo phakathi kwabantu ababili abaseduze njalo bubukeka njengolwandle olungapheli. Kusukela ekuseni ekupheleni kwelanga ilanga futhi ligcwele ukuzola, kodwa emva kokudla kwasemini isiqalo siphezulu, esingabhubhisa ama-pair ahlala phambili kakhulu. Ukuphazamiseka ebuhlotsheni kwenzeka ngenxa yezizathu eziningi, kodwa ukungaxolanga okungaqiniseki phakathi kwabantu ababili kungenza ukugqithisa ngokweqile komunye wezinhlangothi. Akekho ofuna ukuvumela ukulawula okugcwele phezu kwemizwa yabo, isikhathi, kanye nesikhala somuntu siqu. Ukuqaphela ubudlelwane ngokuvamile kuvamise ukuhlukanisa.
Owesifazane obtrusiveness
Ukukhathazeka kwesifazane kubonakala ngendoda njengokukhuliswa kabi, noma ukuziphatha okulula. Ukudlala nomuntu oqaphele ngokweqile nokuziphoqa kuzo zonke izimo futhi nganoma yisiphi isizathu, owesifazane njengokungathi uthi uyatholakala. Kodwa "isithelo esivinjelwe" esiphundu, hhayi okuzinikela kuzo zonke izimo.
Ukuqaphelisisa esiteji sokuzijwayeza, kubhekene nokuhlukana kobuhlobo. Akekho umuntu ongakwazi ukuma izingcingo ezingaphazanyiswayo, ezifuna ukuzinakwa ngokwengeziwe, kanye nokuqapha nokubika ngamahora ababili abasebenzisa ngokwehlukana.
Enye indlela yokuziqhenya lapho owesifazane ezama ukugcina umthandi wakhe "ngesikhashana." Lona umdlalo onobungozi futhi, njengomthetho, iphetha ngokuhlukanisa. Ngempela, lo muntu ubeka inkululeko ngaphezu kwakho konke. Ngisho noma uboshelwe umshado, indoda ifuna ukukhululeka. Thina besifazane abanelungelo lokufuna umbiko kuye: "kungani ahlala emsebenzini", noma angamvumeli ukuba ahambe ngeveki ngeenkampani zesilisa. Ukutholwa kwemvelo kubonakala kungenakuqondakala kuphela kulowo owenza lokho, futhi okwesibili ngumthwalo ongenakubekezelelwa.
Indlela yokuhlola ukuthi ubonisa ukukhathazeka komthandekayo wakho: wabiza inombolo yakho oyintandokazi, kodwa wayesematasa futhi wathi uzobuyisa ukuthi uzokhishwa kanjani. Uma ukhululekile, uzobe ulinde ucingo lwakhe. Uma ukucindezela kubonakala kumuntu wakho, uzokudayela inombolo yomuntu eduze kwakho izikhathi eziningana, ukuze uthole ukuthi akakhishwe yini.
Ukukhathazeka komuntu
Kubantu, le mfanelo ibonakala kaningi kakhulu kunabesifazane. Ngokuvamile umuntu angabonisa ukukhathazeka ngalezo zinsuku lapho ekhathalela intombazane, efinyelela isimo sakhe sengqondo, futhi kaningi kangako ebuhlotsheni bomshado.
Inkinga enkulu yomuntu okhukhumezayo ukuziphendulela nokwehluleka ukuzethemba. Indoda ayinaso isiqiniseko sokuthi kufanelekela ukunakekelwa kwengxenye yowesifazane, futhi konke okukhethayo, ukukwenza ngokungazelelwe. Kodwa-ke, ukubekezela okwesabisa amantombazane amaningi. Umuntu onjalo kufanele akwazi ukumangala, okwakungamangalisa ukuthi wanikeza lona wesifazane wenhliziyo yakhe, okwesikhathi esifushane sokunyamalala. Khona-ke ukubonakala kwakho okulandelayo ekuhloleni kobudlelwane, kuyokwamukeleka kulona wesifazane.
Yini ongayidla khona kukhona izimpawu zokuziphatha okungafuni?
Hlala phansi. Awukwazi ukwenza umuntu akuthande kakhulu, asebenze noma ayenze ukunakwa okwengeziwe.
Shintshela ezifisweni zakho ezifisweni zomlingani wakho. Ungamvimbeli ukuba yedwa lapho efuna. Yenza uhlu lwezimo lapho uzibeka ngokweqile, ukulawula
Isixazululo esihle kakhulu kuyoba ukuchitha ngempelasonto nabangani bakho, futhi uvumele umthandi wakho aqonde ukuthi ungakwazi ukuzijabulisa futhi ujabule ngaphandle kwalo. Kuphela emva kwalokhu konke, ungazami ukuthola kuye ukuthi iyiphi ingxenye yakho yesibili okwenza yonke impelasonto.
Nika uthando lwakho, futhi ungabuzi ngokuphindaphindiwe, bese ungasoze wathinta ingxenye yakho yesibili.